Hey Girls!
sorry to break the chain of cute Halloween pictures, but I just wanted some of your seasoned Mom advice :) Kyler is 23 months and just starting to show the signs of being ready to potty train. As this being my first kid I have tons of questions and don't know where to begin?! or if it's even worth begining now?
My first question is what products, DVD, books, potty chairs did you guys buy and like or hate? As well as any methods for potty training you found in books etc that worked?
Another thing is that I am worried about having another baby in 2-3 months and if I do get him potty trained, is he just going to regress and make my life a lot harder than it needs to be when the baby comes? So should I wait till the baby is a few months old, or start and try to potty train him before the baby comes and deal with the messes? Just pretend we are at girls night and I just asked you guys these questions :)
I know this can't be the hardest thing I will ever do as a mom, but because I have never done this firsthand I don't know where to start??!!
So any tips, tricks, advice and recommendations for products to buy would be great and MUCH appreciated!
Thanks Girls!!!
love, Rachel
10 comments:
OK, of coarse I am by no means an expert. But my advice is to do as little as possible. I really have tried to intervene as little as possible-and so far both times it has worked with hardly any effort, stress or accidents. They were both trained at about 2 1/2. Once the started waking up with dry diapers I would occasionally ask them if they wanted to sit on the toilet and try. Occasionally they would want to and other times they didn't. I tried to never make it a big deal and tried not to ask too often. Once they actually went in the toilet a few times they liked it and started to want to just do it on their own. I think the whole process of them getting potty trained after they went in the toilet a few times only took a few days. I just would much rather change diapers than clean up accidents and stress over it. I'm sure there are A TON of different opinions on this and I think whatever you decide for you is the right answer. Different things work for different people. I have also bought little toilets-and really they just like the regular. We just now have a step so Isaac is tall enough to use it. Good luck-new phases are always so much fun. It is such a HUGE accomplishment when you get one potty trained-seriously, you will feel so great! Let us know how it goes.
I'm with Rachel: let them do it on their own. Hallie's in the process right now and some days she goes in the toilet most of the day and sometimes she doesn't want anything to do with it. I think with Zeke I would just ask him if he wanted to wear diapers or underwear in the morning. He started choosing underwear and then we'd play a game called sink the ship. The toilet paper was the ship and he would try to sink it with his pee. I know boys are supposed to learn sitting down but he loved standing up. He seriously had like 4 accidents and then the peeing things was done. The pooping was a whole other story because he would always ask for a diaper to poop in. So that went on for about a year before he switched to the toilet. I think Hallie just told me that she needs to go pee pee. I better run.
-Ann
Wow - you're going to get LONG comments here!
I agree.. don't intervene too early or too much. I got this advice with Dillon, so I waited and waited and finally he was almost three and I was a few months away from having Charlie, so I did the "DR Phil" method (email me if you need a better explaination) where you do it in a day. It actually took a few days and then in a few weeks he wasn't even wearing pull-ups to bed. It was easy and pretty painless, but like I said, he was pretty nearly 3 years old!
Charlie is going to be 3 Feb 1st and he's a whole other creature. I have no idea how I'm going to get him trained. He doesn't respond to stuff like Dillon did. He's too smart! He sings songs about how much he loves his diaper, but takes it off a couple of times a day to go pee in the potty! He always tells me he has to "go hide" which means poop, so I always ask him if he'd like to do it in the toilet and he adamantly refuses. SO, I'm still waiting with him and who knows for how much longer!
Good luck :)
A great book that I used is "Toliet Training in Less Than a Day" by Nathan Azrin ad Richard M. Foxx. It came highly recommened to me by a few friends. I really liked it cause I had no idea how to do it and this tells you step by step how to potty train. It worked really good with Kailyn. Jordan was a lot harder egg to crack. She just didn't care if she had an accident. I would often catch her in wet or poppy panties and she didn't care. 2-3 months before the baby is born might be enough time but it might not, it really depends on the child. Kailyn was potty trained for only a month or 2 when we moved and she didn't digress (she did have a couple accidents) and then Jordan and been completely potty trained for at least 4 months when we moved out to Ohio and she completely digressed...to the point that we had to put diapers back on her for a couple months. So it really depends on the kid (probably not what you want to hear). Kailyn does really good with change normally though and Jordan does not. So my advice would be to check out the book from the library if you are looking for a 'method' to use.
I don't have any advice because Jade isn't anywhere close wanting to use the toilet. I was starting to get worried hearing how everyone else's kids started around two, but Jenny you made me feel so much better. Good luck with the potty training.
with ella and Caden I just asked if they wanted to go on the potty. sometimes they were interested and sometimes not. It seems like I would just ask if they wanted to go every once in a while for a few months and then it did happen fast. And it was even quicker for Caden because of cours he would watch Ella. So more of the same of what everyone else wrote. Good luck Rachel
Jill
Thanks everyone for your advice. It is helpful. I am glad to hear it's ok to wait and not worry too much about it. I just don't want to pressure him. You all are awesome!
With my boys I waited till they were both 3 and by then they were so ready they practically potty trained themselves. The only thing that we had to do was make SURE that Campbell went to the bathroom right before bed. And both have been about 4 before I'd let them stand up and pee. Pooping was pretty smooth too. We would just make a BIG deal about them pooping in the toilet and then waved good bye to it when we flushed (don't worry, they don't wave good bye any more).
rachel, i agree with what everyone else said--if he likes it and wants to try it, great, but i would really just let him do it on his own. (really, i'm not one to give advice, charles was 4 before he would poop in the toilet and jones STILL wets his pants during the day...ugh!) anyway, i didn't even THINK about it with the boys until they were 3 (I was preg with eva and i couldn't for the life of me spend any amount of time in the bathroom watching kids try to pee or poo without heaving...) so i just let it be, and then they just did it pretty fast. definitely no pressure. i have heard from a lot of resources that the longer you wait (within reason) the easier and faster it is. i agree 100%.
Good luck! it is not a fun process, but they figure it out eventually!
Meg
Ditto.
Katie
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